First of all you need to make sure your bluetooth is on. And one of you needs to be in discovery mode, and the other needs to hit search for new devices. This will search for you and it should come up on each phone saying found "Lucy" and found "Jerry". It all depends what the names are in your phone. Now you need to pair and when you put in the password they are either the last four digits of your cell number or 0000. When you both put in these codes, they should match. Neither of you should put in a different code. Now you will be paired. It'll say now that you can send your music via bluetooth and you just pick who you want to send it to. Hope I helped!