I Just updated my bothers storm to .230, just for kicks to see if the problem was just mine. His installed and connected perfectly! So i started digging. While goin through the applications list i jus happened to look at the default permissions for the Core apps.. and there it was. Mine was set to custom, where when i checked his... was set to allow.
Made the oh so simple change to mine and Poof! Everything connects perfectly!!!
Charging msg is gone( i get the lightning bolt), BBsak, DM, and JlCmdr all connect as they should!!!