Even though your a Sox (:no fan I'll try to suggest one thing that has worked for me. The one thing that stood out was VISTA. try right clicking on apploader.exe and running as administrator. That has worked for me when the system wont recognize a new leaked OS
This seemed to fix it. After re-installing the DM, was able to connect to phone, but still wouldn't sense the new OS. So, I retried using this suggestion and it appears to be installing now....THANKS to all who helped!
**Slacker is working for me now. I reset the account and everything seem to b working. Also, i just got an icon for Visual Voicemail...must b pushed from VZW...anyone else just get this? Is Visual VM free? I click on it, and it takes me to the agreement page, to much to read on there lol.